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By discopuppy, Jan 24 2017 02:20PM

In our cultural imagination, sex parties are imbued with a particular mythic value. For many of us, the idea of doing something we’re raised to think of as private in public holds a taboo charge, and the accompanying ideas of sexual hedonism and abandon only further piques our curiosity. What’s more, a handful of pretty unrealistic depictions of sex parties have seeped into the popular consciousness (I’m looking at you, Eyes Wide Shut), meaning there’s quite a skewed understanding of what an orgy might actually entail.

As a result, when I tell people I regularly attend orgies with friends and partners, I’m often met with either appalled stony silence or total fascination. If you fall in the latter camp, but have never been sure how to go about actually attending a play party, below is some advice about how to get started.

Things To Consider Well Beforehand.

Orgies and play parties can take a variety of forms, and being specific about the sort of experience you want to have will help make sure you end up at the right one for you.

For instance, swingers parties at a club are generally quite different to BDSM events that take place in ‘dungeon’ spaces. These in turn are different from bigger social events that have separate play rooms and private parties that people host at home. Most parties tend to last all evening until the early hours, although there are longer, weekend-er style events out there too.

If you’re looking for more traditional swinging parties, you might want to start with something like The Playgrounds or Fever parties (both of which do events nationwide), or try a sex club like S-Private-Club.

These environments tend to include a lot of straight couples, and often market themselves on having a selective admissions policy. This can sometimes seem intimidating, but in reality, they’re pretty accessible for newbies.

My friend and I once stood on a doorstep, knocked nervously and then had a frantic, whispered negotiation about whether we’d actually made a huge mistake and should do a runner. Happily, we stayed long enough for the lovely host to open the door and introduce us to the other guests, all of whom had similar tales about last minute panics.

For the more kinky among us, I would recommend trying After Pandora or Subversion. If you haven’t already, It’s also worth joining Fetlife, where you’ll find lots of parties across the UK relevant to your interests. While not strictly a sex party, Torture Garden remains as visually spectacular as ever, and has enough play space to swing a pair of leather chaps.

Once you’ve picked an event to attend, check their membership policy and any online resources such as the event’s consent code or etiquette guide. A great deal of play parties require guests to pre-register or join as members, so you’ll need to get the admin side out of the way. Other events will also have consent codes online and further information about the event and what to expect. Be a nerd. Do the reading.

In The Run Up

If a sense of community is important to you, certain events like After Pandora, Kinky Salon and Killing Kittens also host non-sexual social events. These can which can be a great way to meet people before attending a more naked version of the same event, and assuage any nervousness you might feel. The same is true of munches – the term for a meet up for a group of people with shared kinky interests – which you’ll find in abundance on Fetlife.

On the subject of communication: I’d recommend having a full and frank discussion with the person (or people) you’re attending with. Perhaps unsurprisingly, sex parties can be a crucible of emotions, and the more you communicate in advance, the easier it will be to avoid any unexpected stumbling blocks.

If you’re going with a lover, some things to consider: What are your limits? What are your partner’s? Is playing with others OK? If so, to what extent? Is it OK for you to play separately from one another, or only together? What have you agreed about safe sex practices with new people? What’s the plan if one of you wants to leave and the other is having a really good time? The ‘let’s just see what happens’ approach may seem more spontaneous, but it can lead to some seriously crossed wires and hurt feelings later on.

On The Day Of The Party

It’s totally normal to be nervous! However, definitely try to avoid getting drunk or high to overcome this. It’s imperative to get and give consent when you’re sober, plus many events will ask you to leave if you’re out of it. Consent culture underpins these events, so I’d recommend reading something like this blog, which was created specifically for sex positive spaces.

At most events there’s normally plenty of socialising before you get down to brass tax, so don’t worry about walking into the middle of a naked pile on. There’ll also be a space for you to get changed if you opted not to wear your fetish gear on the 24 bus. A note on outfits – some places specify a dress code or fancy dress theme, but I wouldn’t get too hung up on this. You may well end up taking your outfit off fairly quickly.

When you’re chatting to other guests, be honest about the fact it’s your first time. There’s really no need to overplay your experience level, as everyone’s new at some point. It’ll mean that other attendees can be sensitive to any potential nerves you may have, and also be supportive and welcoming.

Just like any other night out, it pays to have realistic expectations about the occasion. It might be an amazing, transformative erotic experience, or you might end up having lacklustre sex and go home early. That’s fine. Not every orgy is going to be like Caligula. A friend of mine recently attended a private event where the group chemistry just wasn’t right, and no-one ended up fucking. Instead they just ended up playing a relatively chaste game of spin the bottle.

Most parties will have their own safer sex supplies available, but it never hurts to bring some additional ones with you. You can also bring along a favourite toys, kit, kink equipment etc, and I’ve always found props like these to be a great way to start a conversation with someone you want to play with. If you spot someone sexy wielding a paddle, vibrator or rope that you like the look of, slink over, tell them you’re thinking of buying one yourself and could they show you how it works?

And finally, a crucial thing to remember is it is absolutely OK to go to a sex party and not have any sex at all. Your attendance is in no way a guarantee that you’ll play. Personally, if I’m feeling a bit uncertain about an event, I treat it like any other non sexual social event, and if sex happens, that’s a fun bonus – but in no way essentially to making the night a ‘success’.

Having said that, sex parties can be an opportunity to have incredibly hot sexual experiences. Orgies have helped me discover more about how I like to fuck, and given me experiences that are firmly lodged in my wank bank. They’ve made me more confident in my body, as well as more body positive generally. We’re so often presented with a limited version of how sex ‘should’ look, and it’s incredibly exciting (and hot) to be in a room full of different people, with different bodies, fucking one another.

I’ve met gorgeous people, some of whom have gone on to become friends, and had significant shared experiences with partners and lovers. Above all, they’ve shown me of the value of feeling sexually playful and not taking it all too seriously.

If this blog has managed to pluck at your curiosity strings then why not venture to The Playgrounds LADY IN RED - Shades darker party on 11th February at S-Private-Club

By discopuppy, Oct 16 2016 01:26PM

Did you know that there are actual benefits from group sex?

Revealed: 3 Benefits Of Group Sex


Needless to say, group sex is a topic that is under constant dispute. This is because in many places, having sex with multiple partners in one setting is considered taboo. However, at The Playgrounds parties and Cougarsandcubs parties engaging in such sexual acts does have its advantages.

Below, we take a look at 3 benefits of group sex as follows:

Great pleasure.

There are numerous things that one should consider before arriving at the decision to participate in group sex. By having sex with various people, participants may derive great pleasure from intercourse. This is a clear psychological benefit because when having sex with many people, various parts of the body that are sensitive to sexual stimulation can be aroused simultaneously. Being caressed by several people at the same time means that sexual sensations are bound to intensify considerably.

Prevents the development of burdensome relationships.

Engaging in sex with just one partner often results in an emotional connection. But by participating in group sexual activities, you limit the complications of feelings being developed by the other party. However, this holds true if those in the group only get together once with no chance of sexual partners ever meeting again. Additionally, having sex with people you are not emotionally connected to can be immensely beneficial because sexual sensations are likely to be more heightened since you do not have to constantly think about your partner’s desires and whether or not you meet their needs.

Realization of fantasies.

This is ideal for people who would wish to try something new and require a little more spice to heat up their sexual desires and needs. It can also be great for individuals who prefer visual sensations. Sex with people whom you may never meet again can allow you to be more relaxed and calm, and also allow you to fulfill all the sexual desires which you may be too shy to discuss with a spouse or permanent partner.


Group sex has numerous benefits that should be considered if you are contemplating participating in such sex. Intercourse with multiple partners can lessen the burdens that sex with a permanent partner creates. Therefore, for those looking to have sex without having to deal with the attachment and burdens synonymous with having sex with one partner, then you should definitely consider group sex. You also stand to gain fulfillment of sexual fantasies that you may harbor without feeling too embarrassed to share them with your partner. If you wish to have no strings attached sex with multiple partners, then partaking group sex is definitely for you.

Come and see for yourself at any Playgrounds party xxxx

By discopuppy, Sep 8 2016 08:22AM

While anal play is by no means a new practice, the number of straight men harbouring desires to be on the receiving end has become much more commonplace. So, by popular demand (fanfare please) we present our Recipe for Successful Pegging for Newbies.

What is Pegging?

Nothing to do with laundry, pegging is the practice of a heterosexual male being anally penetrated by a woman wearing a strap-on dildo. This became a popular notion in 1998 when Sex Educator, Carol Queen made the video dvd ‘Bend Over Boyfriend. The term ‘pegging’ came to be when sex columnist, Dan Savage, held a contest in 2001 asking his readers to coin a phrase for the practice.

Preheat the Oven

There a several things to consider when thinking about exploring pegging. Its good to start slow. Before investing in a harness and dildo, experimenting with fingers, small butt plugs or small prostate stimulators can help both parties discover what they like and don’t like about anal play.

The Shopping List

When you feel ready to move to strap-on sex, choosing the right harness and dildo are very important and can make all the difference to your level of enjoyment. If a harness fits incorrectly, it can make penetration awkward —perhaps even a no go. If you get overexcited and choose a dildo that is too gargantuan, it can make the experience quite unpleasant if you are a beginner.

Mix the Ingredients

Try to find an affordable but higher quality harness that can worn as either a one-strap or two-strap style so you can choose what is most comfortable. Try also to find one with a removable backing pad for stability. When it comes to choosing your weapon of choice, look for a dildo that is smooth with no distinct ridges so penetration will be smooth and more comfortable. You can always try out those deliciously pleasurable ridges once you are a veteran. Oooh! Don’t forget the most vital ingredients of all — communication and lubrication!

Decorate to Taste

Some couples also want to try double dildos, which have one end that is worn internally by the lady-friend, while the other end stands ready to penetrate their excited pegging partner. Some also have vibrators in that can stimulate the wearer. A perfect ‘double ender’ for pegging newbies would be one with a large wearable bulb that can be inserted vaginally on one end, and a finger-sized dido at the other.

And Serve….Right in the Butt!

No calories and totally indulgent. If this article has intrigued you to investigate further, get online and check out the horde of perennial bestselling books that cover every type of anal play imaginable, including pegging.

By discopuppy, Aug 13 2016 08:49AM

Why Sex in Your 50’s Can be Some of the Best Ever!

Sex is a powerful emotional experience, a great tool for protecting or improving health, and a whole lot of fun. And it's certainly not only for the young!

Sex is not a question of age, but one of desire.

The need for intimacy is ageless. And studies now confirm that no matter what your gender, you can enjoy sex for as long as you wish. Naturally, sex at 50 may not be like it is at 20 or 30—but in some ways it can be even better. As an older adult, you may feel wiser than you were in your earlier years, and know what works best for you when it comes to your sex life. Mature people often have a great deal more self-confidence and self-awareness, and feel released from the unrealistic ideals of youth and prejudices of others. And with children grown and work less demanding, people are better able to relax and enjoy one another without the old distractions.

For a number of reasons, though, some people worry about sex in their later years, and end up turning away from sexual encounters. We say don’t! Sex is great at any age. Whether you’re seeking to restart or improve your sex life, it’s important to be ready to try new things. Your later years can be an exciting time to explore both the emotional and sensual aspects of your sexuality. In fact, sex can be more enjoyable than ever.

There’s no more sweating the small stuff like you did when you were a neurotic basket-case of hormones. The independence and self-confidence that comes with age can be incredibly attractive to potential partners. No matter your gender, you may feel better about your body at 52 ,or 72 even, than you ever did at 22. You now know way more about yourself and what makes you excited and happy. Now all you have to do is take it.

You might not be as comfortable with some sexual positions as you once were, but that doesn’t mean you need to give up an activity that is pleasurable for you (then again, you may still be as supple as a gymnast you lucky thing). Keep in mind that it’s not all about recreating the way things were when you were younger. The key to a great sex life is finding out what works for you now. Sex when you are older may call for some creativity but that’s all part of the fun - enjoy it.

By discopuppy, Aug 13 2016 08:38AM

With the legendary CougarsandCubs on a Friday 26th August at Radlett with The Playgrounds, we look at the wonderful benifits of these parties.

Are you on the prowl for an older, more experienced lady who knows what she wants and how to get it? In case you’re new to MILF hunting or simply need a refresher, here’s our guide to wooing your fiery cougar into bed!

Be Good To Her and She’ll Be Good to You

Remember that mature ladies are majestic with much respect for themselves, so treat them with that same level of appreciation and don’t forget for a second that she has those additional years of practice in pulling - she’s much better at it than you are.

So if you act like anything less than a gentleman in the way you speak to and treat her, don’t be surprised when you’re kicked to the curb and she goes on to find someone who really does behave like they should toward her.

Cougar Locations

Where to find a sexy Cougar that will fulfil all your darkest pleasures? Then CougarsandCubs parties have to be your first port of call, there next party will be at Radlett on Friday 26th from 8.00pm.

There are also many other places, from the gym getting their beautiful figures in shape, the local park mingling with other Cougars, to the pub scouting out potential younger lays across the bar. Want to be one of those hot, less experienced men that they bed after eye-fucking across the room? We bet you do!

Please Her in more Ways than One

You’ve bagged your sexy older vixen and you’re in between the sheets, now you need to show your Cougar what a raging testosterone-filled bull you are.

Don’t hold back, your mature woman doesn’t want a young boy, she wants an enthused, alpha male who knows how to caress her oh so subtly yet bring her to the point of climatic, Earth-shaking pleasure whilst getting what he desires from her also.

She wants this man to show her things she’s never seen and please her in ways she’d never imagined. So think outside the box when with your Cougar, missionary all night most likely wont cut her mustard!

So remember to exude confidence, allure, respect and display a little awe that’s due for the wondrous females that are mature women. Your older woman will be intriguing not just in the bedroom but in general thanks to her extensive life experience, she will show you things you could only have ever dreamt up from the most sensual pornography and leave the most erotic memories etched in your mind for the rest of your life.

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