5 Tips for preparing for your first swingers lifestyle threesome.


Whether you’re a seasoned couple looking to finally invite a third party into the boudoir or are a swinging single looking for that first taste of a sultry threesome, there are certain things you should know to prepare for the experience. After all it’s challenging enough to find balance with two people, and threesomes can be omnipresent with imbalances and awkwardness that make getting ‘on the same page’ sexually between three participants.

These five tips for first time swingers will help you navigate these delicate waters.

1.  Get to Know Each Other Before the Fling

The difference between a so-so threesome and a mind-blowing one is having everyone comfortable and excited about the union. Get together and have a ‘date’ to hang out before intimacy to allow for bonding both emotionally and sexually. Of course, this may not be possible in a club situation, but in general this is the best way to get a vibe of whether or not it will work out well and to confirm that everyone is equally on board with a triad encounter.

2.  Set Solid Boundaries in Advance

During that initial ‘date,’ go ahead and set those boundaries, giving everyone an opportunity to chime in. Don’t want anything in your bum, or aren’t into a certain position? Now’s the time to speak up. Partners need to have their own set of mutual rules, and then clue in the third party as to what those are, as well. Sticking with the boundaries can help prevent post-ménage à trois regret.

3.  Don’t Get (Too) Intoxicated

The point of threesomes are to become intoxicated by loving and sharing each other’s bodies, and getting too drunk can dampen the experience in multiple ways. Not everyone can handle their liquor well, but even more importantly is the fact that too much of certain intoxicants can cause vaginal dryness and erectile dysfunction. If lowering your inhibitions is necessary, don’t overdo it.

4.  Sit Back and Enjoy the View Occasionally

Swingers will tell you that threesomes can be physically exhausting, so it’s always good when one party takes a break from the action. It’s even better when you can just enjoy the primal beauty of watching the other two lover’s entanglement—and of course, pleasuring yourself is always optional!

5.  Part Ways Publicly

Once the intimacy ends it may seem awkward trying to part ways if the third isn’t spending the night. If this is the case, make the break after having a friendly meal or cup of coffee in a public place so no one feels ‘cheapened’ or ‘dismissed’ right after sex. Follow these tips and ride the swingers lifestyle right into your first threesome and make it orgasmic!

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