Arranging Swinger Threesomes

A threesome could be one of the best sexual experiences you can have as a couple. Ladies, imagine enjoying the attention of two men in the most intimate moments – that is very empowering & enjoyable. As a man, you’ll have a chance to show the world – or at least another guy – how lucky you are to share the bed every night with that wonderful woman.

But how to have an MMF threesome?

Where to start?

What is acceptable, and what is not?

These are a few daunting questions you might ask before embarking on the adventure. Buckle up & keep reading because we will demystify threesomes and show you how to enjoy it while protecting the relationship with your special someone!


First, let’s clarify that not all threesomes are the same. You can have two men & one lady, or you can have one man & two ladies. To further confuse it, there is also the question of bisexual play. Will the two ladies or two men play with each other?

To avoid confusion, swingers like to use letter combinations to distinguish the types of threesomes:

MMF – Two men & one lady, with bisexual play implied because the MM letters are connected. MFMTwo men & one lady, with no bisexual play implied because the F letter is in the middle. FFMTwo men & one lady, with bisexual play implied because the FF letters are connected. FMFTwo ladies & one man, with no bisexual play implied because the M letter is in the middle.

Of course, many people ignore the letter placement and assume all threesomes are the same thing. Be wise and always double-check with your play partners about how they feel about bisexual play.


Is A MMF Threesome For You?

Perhaps this is the first question to ask yourself before arranging an encounter. Women considering such an adventure must understand that being touched, kissed, and penetrated by two cocks at the same time can lead to sensory overload if they’re not mentally ready for the threesome.

This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have the threesome; doing it with two guys can be one of the best sexual experiences you’ve ever had.


Men should understand that there is no room for jealousy and homophobia in such an experience. If you have those issues, then a MMF threesome is not the best idea for you. Your lady will be kissed, touched, and banged by another man. Preparing yourself for the scenario is important, as seeing all this in real life could be different than imagined.


It is also essential to understand that you will also touch another man. Even if this was a MFM threesome and you’re straight, you might find yourself in positions where your sword will come in contact with the other man’s sword, especially if she decides to give you both a tandem blowjob or if she wants to experience double penetration. When you have three bodies touching simultaneously, there is just a good bit of incidental contact.


You should talk with your partner and detail what you both want to happen and what you do not want to happen. Talk about what rules & boundaries you should use and agree to them. Search Google for MMF sex positions so you can find out what would work best for you. Surprises are good for birthday parties but not so much for threesomes if you want to protect your relationship.


Who To Have An MMF With?

If you’re completely sure about the threesome, it’s the moment to find a partner. Don’t recruit a vanilla friend. You want to play ménage-a-trois with a veteran single man in the lifestyle for the first time. In this way, if things go awry, if you don’t like it, or realize that you don’t want to do it anymore when you’re all naked, you can just part ways and forget that it ever happened.


If he’s someone you know, you might have to live with the embarrassment of a poor performance each time you meet. Or if your vanilla friend is immature, they might spill your sexy threesome secret to your other friends, and drama is never fun.


Obviously, though, you won’t find a single guy available to have a threesome with you at every corner. Nevertheless, swinging sites and swinging clubs are a good start. Seek out veteran single men with experience in threesomes. This will help ensure they can perform and don’t suffer from stage fright. Experienced swingers also understand their role and understand the difference between a swinging threesome and cuckolding. Remember to respect the single guy and treat them as partners and not just your personal sex toy.


Once you’ve found someone you like, go out for a drink so you can all get to know each other and build a trusting connection. At this low-pressure stage, it is a great idea to discuss everyone’s expectations and limits.


The beauty of MMF threesomes is that it gives all partners the chance to experiment something new. However, if you’re looking for men-on-men engagement and maybe penetration, it is important to discuss any bisexual desires before jumping in bed to make sure everything flows smoothly during sexy time.


MMF Threesome Etiquette

One of the main things men have to understand is that a MMF is often about her. It is customary for women to set the rules and lead the game. Of course, some women like to be objectified in bed, and that’s perfectly acceptable. This doesn’t mean that you can do what you want and cross anyone’s personal swinging limits.


For instance, if she specifically said that she’s not interested in double penetration and only wants normal intercourse and blowjobs, don’t insist on it when you’re in the middle of the action. Or even worse, attempt to do it. Everything must be consensual. The same goes for men. If you have bisexual tendencies and would like to try new sensations during your threesome, make sure the guy you pick is bisexual too and fully aware of your desires. Act like an adult. If you aren’t sure about something, make sure to ask before doing it.


Have clear preferences or boundaries? Please make sure to clearly mention them before the sexy time. Swingers are bad at mind-reading but very good at following instructions, so act accordingly.


Bisexual Perspective

Many bisexual swinger men don’t like to admit that they enjoy some male fun. It’s ok. We won’t tell anyone. However, it would be best if you shared your bisexual desires before the clothes start coming off. Make sure your potential play partner is comfortable with bisexual play and establish clear play boundaries. Is touching ok? What about oral? Who wants to be top or bottom? Not to mention that backdoor play can take a bit of prep work, so you really want to share your bisexual desires sooner than later to make sure it all goes smoothly.


If you are bi-curious, make sure to communicate it. This will help your play partner better understand your situation and go slower to help you figure out what is and is not in your bisexual comfort zone. Remember, it is always OK for anyone in the threesome to say “no” at any time. If this is your first time with backdoor play, do plenty of research first so you can prepare yourself and stay safe.


MMF Threesome Tips & Tricks

No matter how mentally prepared you are, you could be pretty stressed out when the big day arrives. Here are a few tips and tricks to help you feel at ease faster and enjoy your threesome to the fullest.

  1. Take it slow A threesome is not a race to orgasm. It’s not a competition, either. Don’t be too focused on who has it bigger or who performs better. A MMF threesome is about sharing and enjoying yourself and your partners.

  2. Be Smart Go easy with the alcohol. You want to be mentally sharp, so you don’t accidentally break a rule and cause relationship problems.

  3. Connect with your partners Unlike a swinger gang bang, a threesome is a more intimate experience for all participants. It’s not just a quick roll in the bed – and even if it is, you should put some passion into it. A glass of wine, some nice music, a chat, and laughs before starting to touch and kiss each other can set the mood and make all of you feel at ease. Making eye contact with your partners while having sex is also a great way to create a strong emotional connection. Even straight guys can enjoy a fist bump or high-fiving as they share an exhilarating moment with a sexy lady.

  4. Be Prepared Pack extra sex supplies in case the other person forgets to bring enough. Make sure to prepare your body for MMF fun. Bring along a few ice breaker games in case there is some initial awkwardness when starting.

  5. Experiment Whether you’re at the beginning of your relationship or married and with kids, a threesome is a great way to give a twist to your sexual life. You can try a bunch of new positions and sensations, so keep your mind open and unleash your fantasies.

  6. Share the attention While the woman is often the centre of attention in a swinging threesome, no one is the star of the show. Make sure you share your attention and the sexy fun. Remember the first tip? This is not an athletic competition. If you feel like taking a break while watching your partners play, feel free to do it. Pay attention that everyone is having a fun time. If not, try a different position or arrangement.

  7. Relax and enjoy it The first MMF threesome can be overwhelming for everyone involved. Women could feel under a lot of pressure due to all the attention they receive. Men could enter into a competition with the “outsider.” The key to a successful threesome, though, is taking it lightly. Your partner won’t flee with the new guy just because he has a bigger or thicker penis. If you’re a woman, enjoy being the queen of the night and let the two men worship and satisfy you. Close your eyes and abandon yourself to your senses. After all, what can be better for you as a couple than a moment of complete trust, the gratification of the other, and empowerment of your relationship in such a beautiful way?

Afterward

When it is all done, make sure to take time to reconnect with your special someone. Remind yourselves how much you both love each other by doing something nice and special for each other. If something didn’t go right, talk about it. You may need to wait for each of you to rest up, so you can both reflect and communicate about it in a healthy manner. Swinging and threesomes are a fun bonus to your amazing special relationship. That is all it is—a fun bonus to the amazing special relationship between you two.

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