Decoding Hotwife Lifestyle Terms

There are a lot of terms related to hotwifing that you probably never came across in your vanilla days, and some of them can be a little confusing. To help you better connect with the community, we’ll breakdown some of the most common terms.

So you will have a better understanding of why and where the terms all came from and how you can use them best navigate your hotwifing journey.


Let’s start with the most basic term. A hotwife is a woman who indulges in sexual relationships outside of her marriage/relationship with her husband’s knowledge and consent. She can do this with solo adventures or with her husband. This is all part of the ethical non-monogamy umbrella.

There are many different variations of hotwife relationships including where sometimes the woman has sex with another man while her husband is present or she can go out on solo dates with single men or cruise the town to try and hook up with strangers.

Her husband can choose to wait at home and enjoys knowing she is out having fun and will bring back hot details to share with him. Countless arrangements could fall under hotwifing because there is plenty of flexibility for couples to decide their own boundaries.


Many people use the term vixen as just another word for a hotwife. Vixens tend to enjoy the hotwife lifestyle together with their husband. They are a confident & sexy couple that both enjoy having the lady show off in front of other men. A Vixen’s husband is referred to as a Stag.


A Stag is the other half to a Vixen and was born out of the necessity to differentiate hotwife husbands who enjoy sharing their partner but are not submissive or into humiliation like a cuckold. To the hot wife, the Stag is always her main priority and the number one man in her life that no outsider will live up to.

For the Stag he enjoys the voyeuristic aspect of watching his sexy wife perform and impress others. Knowing that other men find his wife desirable is a common motivation for many Stags. Some Stags prefer a more dominant role, as they direct the action and maybe even joins in for a threesome.


A cuckold is a husband who enjoys his hotwife having sex with alpha men instead of himself. He likes the submissive elements of hotwifing and enjoys the degradation and humiliation aspects. In these arrangements, the hotwife is superior and free to do what she pleases outside of the marriage. Many powerful men enjoy being a cuckold because it provides them the freedom of not having to control or take care of anything.

There are many variations of cuckolds ranging from simply being a witness to actively being humiliated to the cuckold being forced to stay home and have to hear about it later.


Usually, a bull refers to any man who is having sex with a hotwife who isn’t her husband/partner. He is generally an alpha dominant male and knows that he is there to deliver great sex to the hotwife and then leave and that that is his only purpose.

Whereas she has an emotional connection with her husband, a hotwife’s relationship with her bull is purely sexual.


Similar to a bull, it is the other man but specifically for Stag/Vixen arrangements. A Buck understands the Stag is being generous by sharing the amazing Vixen experience with him.

Bucks are very respectful and grateful towards Stags for being able to share in the physical connection and understand not to infringe on the emotional connection.


Refers to any confident, mature woman and is not limited to a hotwife. Though many hotwives are desired by younger men who enjoy being with a lady that knows what she wants from his young & virile body.

If you are looking to attract younger men for your hotwifing, make sure to talk about being a sexy cougar in your profile.


This refers to the fluids left inside a lady after having unprotected sex to completion. Some cuckold husbands enjoy being made to clean it up as part of their reconnection routine.


A group of men who sexually enjoy a single lady one after another and sometimes all at once. The lady decides on the rules and boundaries and the men must follow it. Usually, the lady’s husband will be more of an event organizer making sure she stays safe and comfortable during the gangbang and does not participate in the sex acts.


A single lady in the swinging lifestyle that tends to play with couples. They are similar to hotwives but there are some distinct differences. A unicorn is different from a hotwife because they tend to be single compared to hotwives being married.

A unicorn often plays with other couples & a hotwife usually only plays with single men.


Different people will have different meanings for these words. Please don’t look at this list as hard & definitive rules. Rather look at it as a starting point to figuring out what personalized version of the hotwife lifestyle might work for you.

Use this knowledge to better communicate your personal preferences to others in the community. With the internet playing a huge part in hotwife hook-ups it’s no surprise that there is new slang popping up all the time.

Ultimately, it is up to you how you define yourself and your relationship.

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