What’s It Like At Swinger Clubs & Parties

So meet & greet events are “off-premise” affairs since you meet & the party but the sexy stuff happens off-site. “On-premise” is when the sexy stuff is happening on site. At on-premise events, you show up, party, and socialize with other swingers. Of course, if you make a connection you can have some sexy time right there at the swinger party.


Usually, most couples play together. Of course, you can play separately but that is less common. Most often one sexy couple finds another sexy couple and they swap.

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House Parties

House Parties are one form of on-premise swinger parties. They are held in someone’s private home. The host couple usually provides some light finger food & drinks. When you arrive they’ll give you a tour of the house and explain which areas are for partying/socialising, sexy playtime and if any areas are off-limits. If you aren’t sure about something, please ask the hosts. Your host couple may or may not ask for a donation to help cover the cost of the house party. If they don’t ask for a donation, it is always nice to bring them a little gift to thank them for doing all the work it takes to prepare, host & clean-up from a house party.


House parties can be a small affair with just a few couples or they can have over a few hundred people. You can find available house parties listed on the calendars of the online swinger membership sites. Every house party is different because each host couple has a different way of running their swinger house party.


To get a better sense of a house party you can ask the host couple any question you have.

Usually but not always, the crowd shows up a bit late and brings their own preferred alcohol since it is often BYOB (bring your own bottle aka supply your own alcohol) style. There is usually some party music playing as people enjoy drinks and introductions. There might be an ice breaker game or you can do your own ice breaker with the people you happen to be chatting with.


If you find a sexy connection and are ready for sexy playtime, then you can head over to a play area. The play area(s) could be the bedrooms or other space in the house. The play areas can be shared or private depending on the house.


After you have had enough fun, please clean up after yourselves before you head home with the best-looking person at the party – your special someone.


Swinger Clubs

Swinger clubs are another on-premise option. Just like house parties, and regular vanilla bars & clubs, every swinger club is a little bit different. Some swinger clubs don’t allow public nudity, a few are all nude and others have mixed areas. Swinger clubs usually have hospitality couples aka ambassador couples. These couples are like host couple at the house parties. They can give you a tour, explain the rules, show you where you can store your party supplies, and introduce you to some regular attendees.


Many swinger clubs are BYOB since it is usually too much of a headache dealing with a liquor license for a sex club. The bar can be self-serve or they might be a bartender to handle your BYOB alcohol supply. If there is a bartender, it is nice to tip them each time they help you even if they are serving you your own alcohol. The bartenders can also help steer you towards other attendees that might be a good match for what you are seeking.


Swinger clubs come in all sizes & shapes. They might have a handful of people attending or several hundreds of sexy people depending on the venue and weekend. They often have private play areas but sometimes they only have shared play areas. There is also a wide range of amenities depending on the club like indoor or outdoor swimming pools, hot tubs, sex dungeons, stripper poles, shower rooms, lockers, massage tables, and much more. You should do some online research to make sure you pick a swinger club that has just what you want.


While you are researching the swinger clubs, you should also pay attention to their calendars. Clubs often host different parties with different rules on different nights. In other words, Friday nights might be couples only, Saturdays might allow single men to attend and Thursday nights could be reserved for BDSM/fetish people or they might have a calendar of special themed party nights like Mardi Gras or Schoolgirl Night. Make sure to check twice before picking the right night to attend the swinger club so you get the type of party that you want.


Anyone that walks around politely smiling and saying hello will make new friends. These new friends are just friends – there is no need to sexually play with anyone. If you really like a new friend you can ask that couple if they are interested in playing with you.

Most couples do not separate at a swinger club. This is not a high pressure or “everyone fends for themselves” situation. This is more of a friendly party atmosphere with couples, who if the spark feels just right might get friskier than your craziest New Years’ Eve party.

Don’t worry, just because other people at the swinger club are inclined to play, it doesn’t mean you have to play. You can attend and be a wallflower enjoying the party vibe. If anyone approaches, you can politely let them know you aren’t playing that night. They will probably still want to chat with you if you don’t mind because swingers are a friendly bunch. You are in the driver’s seat and control how much or how little you do at a swinger party.


You will probably see more skin than you have ever seen. Ladies in swinger clubs know they are in an appreciative environment so they tend to wear revealing outfits. You are likely to see a few ladies take their top off. If there is an open play area, you might even see some real-life sex.


Swinger clubs follow the “No means no” rule. If anyone asks you, you can just say no thanks. It is important to mind your swinging manners & etiquette. There is never pressure to sexually play with anyone. Touching is not allowed without asking.


Regardless of how or where you decide to go swinging, you have the power to proceed as fast or as slow as you want. Relax and enjoy a fun time knowing that whatever happens you are guaranteed to go home with the sexiest person in the room – your own partner!

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