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SAFE, SANE, AND CONSENSUAL – THE GOLDEN RULE OF THE BDSM LIFESTYLE


There’s nothing wrong with wanting a bit of kink in your sexual relationships and this is particularly the case in the BDSM lifestyle.


Dominatrix with her sub
Dominatrix with her sub

While it’s not for everyone, even those involved in bondage, submission and dominance play have rules to follow. Because each is somewhat essential and related in theory, we’ll call it the ‘golden rule’ of the BDSM lifestyle: Keep it safe, sane, and consensual.


Consensual Play is Pivotal

Before one engages in a BDSM scene, the safety, sanity and wellbeing of each participant must be taken into account. Before play begins, all parties involved in the scene must be in full agreement. Consensual sex is the best sex, so everyone needs to be on board with the plans for playtime. You will need to:


Determine how ‘rough’ the play will be.

Will anyone be tied up?

Who will be the dominant and who will be the submissive?

If others are involved, will be a hard or soft swap?

What will the safe word or words be?


With consensual agreements, you’ll be better prepared to have a swingingly good time, if you keep it sane and safe.



Are Your BDSM Plans Sane?

Everyone’s view of what is or is not sane isn’t necessarily the same, as what intimidates one may seem highly exciting to another in the realm of kink. Some people are not fond of being tied down and/or spanked and might find that to be someone insane, yet many are highly stimulated by the feeling of being restrained, disciplined, and controlled.


BDSM lifestyle

These are types of issues that are going to be most inherent in those new to the BDSM lifestyle or who have just formed a fresh partnership. With these topics covered, let’s explore safety in dom/sub sexual fantasies.


There are a few risks with bondage and domination play, so making sure that the playtime is safe is vital to success and a good time for everyone. Some aspects to remember are aftercare for a sub, who might be sore, have bruising or even welts that require attention. Another consideration is using great caution when using asphyxiation or rubberized masks or bags for breath play.



Making Safety a Priority

Never leave partners who are restrained, gagged or in compromising positions alone, as this can result in severe injury. Use your ‘sane’ guidelines and common sense to ensure safety when involved in this type of kink.


Keep it sane, safe and consensual by following the Golden Rule of the BDSM lifestyle, and you are sure to have satisfying experiences regardless of your role.

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